DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am the mother of the bride, and we have sent out “save the date” cards for a 150-person wedding. My daughter has now decided that she wants a more intimate wedding, with only family present. The wedding is seven months away. How should we address the guests who were sent the “save the dates”? GENTLE READER: You do know, Miss Manners hopes, that this is not a nice thing to do. She will help you, but it is not easy to tell people that you have decided you do not want them at the wedding after all. Besides, if pictures of the wedding are posted, you won’t have a friend left. …
